Friday, 25 August 2017

Barmaid Problems #2 - Bad Parenting


*Names have been changed to comply with the data protection act 1998

As most of you are aware from recent posts, I work in a bar in a holiday park, and as I have said in my previous post "Barmaid Problems #1 - Alcohol & Pregnancy",  I have seen it all - pretty much everything you can think of I've seen at one point or another, either in this bar or another one I have worked at in the past.

I also stated in the previous post linked above how over the past few weeks a lot of things have been bothering me about the things I see on a daily basis in the bar, especially the neglect parents show towards their children, well yet again I have another rant to get off my chest - and of course again it is about the neglect people show their children on a daily basis.

I am not a parent (unfortunately), but I do understand parenting can be tough, and I do not aim to judge people, and I understand for the most part a lot of people are doing the best they can to raise their kids, however in some of these cases they could do better, and should do better.

Take last night for example - I was standing at the bar serving a customer two pints of Coors Light lager, they'd been sitting in the bar drinking for at least 3 hours by this point, and as I was in the middle of pouring the first pint the man's daughter came running up beside him and asked her father "Daddy can I have a sandwich", to which he responded, "no *Molly you can't have a sandwich, do you think I'm made of money". Instantly I was enraged, this man has been in the bar drinking all day with his wife, they have spent at least forty pounds minimum on alcohol, however he can't spare his four year old daughter  two pounds for a sandwich! "This is ridiculous", I quietly thought to myself inside my head. It's times like this I really wish I could tell the customers how I actually feel inside, unfortunately I would lose my job if I were to do that, so again I keep my rage bottled up inside and continue to serve as normal, keeping my happy face on as always.

As I sat the second pint I'd poured down on the bar in front of the man, *Molly started shouting out rather loudly how hungry she was, she screamed "please daddy I'm so hungry my belly hurts" to which again he responded "you can wait till you get back to the caravan!" in an abrupt and slightly aggressive manner. I decided to politely say "come on, give the wain a sandwich", I made sure to make it come across in a slightly jokingly manner but secretly wanting to throw his pints he just asked for over the top of him and tell him to stop being a selfish pr**k - I did refrain though. He responded to me "she had crisps less than an hour ago, and had lunch a couple of hours before, she's at it". I said nothing, I could not even bring myself to think up any sort of reply, inside my head my thought process was screaming "WHAT!?!?!?" "It's 7PM! FEED YOUR CHILD YOU ABSOLUTE DISGRACE". I somehow though, managed to keep my cool and did not say a word.

The fella paid for the pints using his bank card, thanked me and walked away with his daughter who was now at this point crying with tears streaming down her face, they returned to their table where I overheard the child's mother tell her to "stop crying or she will be going home to her bed". I was honestly due to explode with anger, and expressed my concern to a colleague who didn't seem to see why I was so angry - she just nodded in agreement and told me to take a chill pill.

After a few minutes I was a little calmer, and decided to fetch a sandwich, pay for it myself and take it over to the table and give it to the little girl - maybe I was in the wrong for undermining her fathers decision and maybe I shouldn't of done it, but I really couldn't help myself. I told her and her family the sandwich was on the house, they thanked me and then proceeded to say "you shouldn't have bothered, she was just being a brat!". *Molly stopped crying and said "YAY" extremely loud, and shouted "thanks Kelly you're my favourite girl". I returned to the bar and she sat happily and quietly eating her sandwich. After she'd finished she went back round to the soft play area and started running around with friends she'd met in there earlier.

I still can't believe they wouldn't pay two pounds for a sandwich but can sit in the bar drinking for hours on end every single day.

The family are caravan owners, I work in the owners lounge in the holiday park, so they are a family we see in the bar regularly - most of the customers I serve are regulars who come up and down to their caravans to stay every now and then.

Some people's priorities are all wrong - if you can afford to pay three pounds and twenty three pence per pint of Coors Light then you can afford two pounds to feed your child, I don't care if she has had a packet of crisps, or a big lunch, If you've been in the bar for three hours and lunch was five hours ago, no wonder your child is hungry.

As a barmaid I see it so regularly, more than what you would think - people happily paying over the odds for their round of drinks but refusing to buy their kid a fruit shoot or a packet of crisps, or anything really, claiming it's "too expensive" - never complaining once though about the price of drinks they're paying for, as long as they can sit there and get pissed they're not bothered.

That isn't the only parenting problems I am faced with on a daily basis, every weekend people have their kids in the bar until closing time, which for us in the owners lounge is 12.30am, the kids are wandering around absolutely shattered wanting their bed, or falling asleep on the chairs and the parents or "responsible adults" continue to drink instead of taking their kids home to bed where they belong at that time of night. Some of them, instead of heading home at closing time a lot of the time they make their way to another bar.

That leads us to the next issue - Kids in bars, yes it's a holiday park and yes the rules are different, but parents come in and get so smashed they don't even remember what happened when it comes to the next day - how can these people be responsible for looking after multiple children when they can't even look after themselves in some of the states they leave in? As a barmaid all I can do is stop serving when I feel they have had too much and could potentially cause problems, but that's all I can do. I can't stop them getting drunk when they are looking after kids as it's their decision.

Photo Credit: https://cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com

Most of the time the kids are running around the bar unsupervised, which as a barmaid is very frustrating having to constantly tell kids to stop doing things, or having to remove them from the over 18's area, or having to intervene when they start fighting with other kids, or taking glasses out of their hands when they pick up someone alcoholic drink which has been left lying unsupervised - believe me this list could go on forever. If you have a child then you are responsible for that child, yes everyone deserves a break but if you don't have a babysitter then  you have to take care of the child no matter what, that is what you sign up for when having children. It is not my job to look after other people's kids, especially when I am working in a busy environment serving customers, collecting glasses, ensuring the venue stays clean and tidy, cleaning up spillages, I don't physically have the time to add babysitting to the list, but yet I find myself doing it anyway because I am genuinely worried about the welfare of the children, I am worried in case they come to any harm.

The soft play area is through a set of double doors and round a corner, yet adults let their kids run riot unsupervised, and they can in no way even slightly see their children from the bar seats or tables.

There are so many times I have to ask adults to supervise the children.

I should not have to ask people to look after their own kids.

REALLY. LOOK AFTER YOUR KIDS. IT IS YOUR JOB.

Review: Hello Fresh


A friend of mine uses Hello Fresh UK, and as a loyal customer she received an opportunity to give someone a free box, I was the chosen friend to receive the box, so I decided to use the opportunity to review the company and products on my blog.

I went onto the website and I had to choose from a three choices; Classic box, Family box, or Veggie box. As it is just my partner and I in the household, I chose the classic box, which does 2-4 adults (you specify on another page).

When choosing the classic box you have to decide how many people you are ordering for, you can choose from two people, three people, or four people, and you must also decide how many meals you would like to receive per week, again you must choose from three meals, four meals or five meals - As pictured below.

How many people are you ordering for?
How many meals would you like to receive per week?

I chose to receive three meals for two people. This would normally cost £34.99, however as mentioned before I received the box for free due to my friend having a voucher.

When ordering the classic box you get to select meal choices, you must select three of the five available options, however when ordering the family or veggie box you cannot make any meal choices, you will automatically receive a set menu which you are unable to alter. I made my choices on the Hello Fresh website and then entered my payment information (the box was free, but I had to sign up to the subscription service to receive it). 

I received my box the next day, so delivery was very quick - I was impressed. I excitedly took the box into my living area and opened it up to reveal my products, it was exciting. As I unwrapped the box I was met with three recipes, and ingredients to the three different dishes.



I received ingredients to make the following dishes:

Cajun pork with Bulgar wheat and garlicky spring greens.
   


Pan fried chicken with new potatoes and Tarragon sauce.


Hearty Toulouse sausage Cassoulet.


One thing I did notice when I opened the box was, you get the exact amount of ingredients you need, so you really do save a lot of time when cooking as you do not need to measure out the ingredients, however one down side is you cannot make any mistakes as there is none going spare.

After making these dishes I can say they do use high quality meats and the food is tasty, however the portions are small. My partner and I don't scrimp on our portions, but we felt like we could of eaten another meal a few hours later which is never normally the case after eating a meal. My friend's opinion was the same on the family box, she got the two adults and two kids box and didn't feel it was enough to feed her family of four. In my own opinion I just can't say it's really worth it. £34.99 for one box, when you can buy much more for the money in a supermarket and download recipes online.

Summary

Would I use Hello Fresh again? Probably not, as I can make more of a variety of meals at home using ingredients bought from ASDA, and save myself a lot more money. Yes it is handy having it delivered to your door, but you can have groceries delivered to your door from other supermarkets, and if I get my meat from the three for £10.00 section from ASDA I can save myself much more than I could using this company - and I could get a much more filling meal. I feel for the quantity of ingredients the price is overcharged - and these boxes are definitely overrated. I am slightly disappointed as I was so excited to try this and thought the idea was really great, not having to choose out meals and measure out ingredients. 

I still think it's a good idea, and this may well work for some of you guys, but it just isn't for me.

If you would like to try any of these boxes, Hello Fresh UK are offering 50% off your first box. Just visit www.hellofresh.co.uk for more information - just don't forget to CANCEL very quickly if you do not want to continue receiving boxes, as when you get your first box you automatically subscribe to continue receiving boxes and the money will come out of your account direct debit.

Thanks for reading, feel free to leave your very own opinion in the comment box below.

Wednesday, 23 August 2017

Voucher Codes



Below I have collaborated a list of voucher codes for all of my amazing and loyal blog followers, so you guys can get money off too! I get them from an account I follow on Twitter called Wiki Voucher Code. You deserve to get a little something too, follow the page for more awesome discounts.

Click on the headings to go direct to the company website.

Tesco Direct

20% off selected large kitchen appliances

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: TD-PMXF

  • £5 off when you spend £35 or more 

  • Voucher Code: TDX-HMFR
  • £10 off when you spend £75 or more

  • Voucher Code: TDX-HYTP
  • £20 off when you spend £150 or more 

  • Voucher Code: TDX-WFTW


Jack Wills

Extra 10% off sale items

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: GIMME10


Ann Summers

Exclusive free satin and lace eyemask with orders

Expires 23rd August 2017

Voucher Code: HELLOFREEGIFT


Bang Good

Save money on lighting accessories

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: LIGHTS1

GAP

Save up to 30% off full-price and sale styles

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: YOURSGAP

Protein Dynamix 

Free multivitamin when you spend £60

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: SPEND40

Bondara 

Exclusive 10% off sale items

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: EXTRA10

Fossil

30% off selected Fossil Q Touchscreen watches

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: Q30

Shorefield Holidays

£150 off selected August bookings

Expires 24th August 2017

Voucher Code: SUMMER150


Look Fantastic

15% off Kerastase Plus extra 15% off orders

Expires 23rd August 2017

Voucher Code: LFKERA15


Claire's Accessories

40% off kids accessories

Expires 23rd August 2017

Voucher Code: FUN40


MATALAN

£15 off when you spend £100

Expires 23rd August 2017

Voucher Code: TREAT3


Barmaid Problems #1 - Alcohol & Pregnancy



I work in a bar at a holiday park, so believe me when I say I have seen it all - pretty much everything you can think of.

The past few weeks a lot of things have been bothering me about the things I see on a daily basis in the bar, especially the neglect parents show towards their children, however nothing has enraged me more than the recent situation I found myself faced with last week at work.

I will cut straight to the chase; A very heavily pregnant lady came into the bar with her husband and three children, the lady and her husband came to the bar and ordered a round of drinks for herself and her partner, she ordered a large 250ml glass of wine (which is already over the recommended alcohol limit when pregnant alone) and a double peach schnapps and lemonade for herself, and her husband ordered a pint of Guinness. I was enraged at the fact she was drinking when so heavily pregnant, so I left the till point and let my colleague serve her, I just couldn't bring myself to do it as I don't condone it in any way, I could feel the anger building inside me, I knew I had to remove myself from the situation.

At that point, as I walked away, I began to question whether or not I can legally as a barmaid refuse to serve a heavily pregnant lady on those grounds, so I picked up my mobile phone and I opened up Google, hoping to find my answers as I normally do on Google's search bar, unfortunately all I found was a bunch of threads containing people debating the topic, and wether or not there are any rules or laws surrounding the subject. It seemed to be a grey area no one really had a definite answer to.

Since I didn't get the answers I was hoping for on Google, I made my way to the office inside the venue I work in and dialled the duty manager's office extension number. I didn't manage to get my manager I was looking for, however I did manage to get the manager of the bar/restaurant in another department on the holiday park I work on. I explained my situation to him and he completely understood and agreed with my concerns, also explaining he would not want to serve the woman either, however again he did not really know where we stood in terms of laws and rights and what not, so he asks me to hang on the phone whilst he fetched my manager from wherever he was at that time. A few minutes later he returned to the phone call to inform me my manager said I must serve the lady as it is her own personal choice, as there are no laws against drinking when pregnant there is nothing I can do as a barmaid to refuse service, and as a barmaid my duty is to serve the customer as normal.

At this point my blood was boiling, this is not right. I should not have to go against everything I believe in and serve this disgusting woman, sitting getting absolutely smashed whilst walking around with a massive baby bump. Some people  (including myself) would do anything to have a child of their own, and this woman is LEGALLY putting her child's life at risk, and as a barmaid I am required to continue to serve her alcohol and play a part in this? This is not OK! I should not have to do this at all, and even if the law requires she can legally drink alcohol during her pregnancy the licensing laws should at LEAST allow the barmaid or barman to make their own choice and serve or refuse a heavily pregnant lady at their own discretion.

I completely understand one small glass of wine is considered safe and acceptable in pregnancy, and I do not judge those staying within the recommended guidelines even though I wouldn't do it myself, but I think my argument is perfectly justified with regards to my role as a barmaid. Why must I play a part in potentially harming this child?

I am about to seriously look into starting a petition to change these rules and regulations surrounding serving heavily pregnant woman in bars, however I'm not sure I have big enough revenue to get the signatures I need, so I am unsure how to proceed from here.

I guess I can only try.

Tuesday, 22 August 2017

Hair colour remover and lightening products Review



I've been colouring my hair for as long as I can remember, I'm a natural red head and always hated my natural colour, so when I was around 10 years old my mum let me dye my hair, before starting high school. I'd say I'm pretty experienced in the hair-colouring department, since I've got 7+ years experience and had just about every colour of hair you can ever imagine, and since my roots come in so fast I need to re-do my hair every 3/4 weeks. 

Below I have reviewed some hair lightening products I've used recently on myself and my partners hair - I'm so grateful he lets me experiment on him. Feel free to add your own opinions and worst or favourite products in the comment box below.


Pictured above: My recent hair product purchases costing £61 all together.


1. My favourite colour stripper

I will start by saying I've used Jobaz hair colour remover, and Colour b4 hair colour remover, and at £6.99 each they don't do as good a job as my now go-to hair colour stripper which is called Provoke hair colour remover and only cost me £2.99 from Savers store (pictured below).
The first picture below was my hair colour before using the above product, and the second picture was my hair colour after stripping my hair once using provoke hair colour remover. Also bare in mind my hair will always strip to red as it is my natural colour, you cannot achieve a lighter colour than your natural using hair colour remover products.




2. Bblonde Lightening Kit

I am a huge fan of the Jerome Russel Bblonde lightening kit.  I always use the maximum lift (12% vol 40) but you must be very careful using such a high lift as it can be seriously damaging to the scalp and hair, I would recommend seeking professional advice before using. This kit provides everything you need (mixing tub, brush, cap, powder and peroxide) to lighten your hair. Product pictured below. I paid £3.99 from Superdrug.


I used this product kit on my partners hair last week, I mixed the product in the bowl as instructed and pasted it onto his brown hair, the pictures below are after 30 minutes developing time.


Maximum product lifting time states 90 minutes, and because at this point I was trying to achieve grey, you must first manage to get your hair white before you can achieve grey, therefore I left the bleach/peroxide on for 90 minutes. As mentioned before you must be very careful when using this percentage of peroxide, my partner had virgin hair so it was safe for me to do this.

After 90 minutes we headed to the bathroom and washed his hair, I was sure to use good conditioner and ensure his hair remained nice and soft. After towel drying his hair the results were as pictured below.


As you can see we got amazing results. However I did have to tone slight yellow tones out of his hair.  I did this using SHADES London toner which was very cheap from savers. 


 Unfortunately I forgot to take a before picture, however I would continue to use this toner.  We only had to leave it on for 5 minutes, as with toners you must be very careful, the product pastes on to your hair blue so it can risk staining your hair blue/purple if left on too long. I would recommend this product, and I have purchased some more for myself when I attempt the grey look!

WATCH OUT
for my next post - which will be a review on :
LIVE ULTRA BRIGHTS OR PASTEL SILVER LINING HAIR DYE.

Thursday, 1 June 2017

Here's Why My Cat Turned on his Sister After a Vet Visit.


My little 6 and a half month old kitten went for her spaying surgery yesterday.  Needless to say I was a complete emotional wreck and was super happy when it was time to collect her from the vet.  To my surprise she was very alert and came straight home to start eating, drinking, and jumping about like a crazy lady just as before, I was expecting her to be groggy and lifeless, so far so good.... That was until she approached our older cat.

My little girl went up to  her brother and rather than a lovely welcoming home cuddle as expected, he hissed in her face and walked away from her.  I was completely and utterly shocked and taken back, they are normally the BEST of friends, they cuddle, lick each other, sleep together, play together, never leave each other's sides, I just could not get my head around this at all.  Naturally I started telling my older cat off saying phrases such as; "NO, that is your sister, why are you doing that", yes I am aware my cats don't understand me but it is a normal thing for me to speak to them as if they can (LOL).

Instantly I turned to google, thinking, how can this be happening, could something vet related trigger this?  Could it be because he smells other animals on her?  So off I went to begin my google search on my phone and sure enough I received my answers.

NON RECOGNITION AGGRESSION.

Yep, it's a thing!  After reading multiple links, stories, forums, it is exactly what I am currently experiencing, start off as best friends, play together, groom each other, sleep cuddled up to each other and then one day after a vet visit, the stay at home cat hisses or attacks the other cat - LUCKILY in my case my older cat has a great temperament and would never attack, the most he has done is hiss and hit her with his paw. Phew! I could not handle attacks between my babies.

This can be prevented according to everything I've read, however unfortunately for myself it's too late, all I can do is let them familiarise with each other again and let the medical scents and other animal scents wear off, however it's good to know for future reference.

For those of you who have cat's and may find the information useful, here's how to prevent non-recognition aggression:

  1. Remove any veterinary odors from the returning cat by either bathing or using unscented baby wipes. Personally from a cat owners point of view I wouldn't actually suggest this even if the websites do, the cat is already beyond stressed, and poorly, the last thing you want is to add more stress and pain to the poor thing.
  2. Try rubbing something with the cats regular scents on them, such as a blanket or favourite toy. Ensure you rub both cats with this item.
  3. Keep the cats separated for a while - possibly even a few days.
  4. Reward cats with treats when positive interaction occurs. 
Some experts advise to take both cats to the vet together even if only one cat needs vet attention.

Hopefully my babies become besties again VERY SOON.  This is killing me!

Thursday, 18 May 2017

Review: Implanon Contraceptive Implant



After being on the contraceptive pill (loestrin 30) for a while I decided to get the implant (implanon) - also known as "the rod" - inserted into my arm at the sexual health clinic - I wanted this for many reasons, such as; headaches, not having to remember to take the pill every day, amongst some other minor reasons.

I went to the clinic and the nurse explained all of the pros and cons, I then laid down on the table and she put anaesthetic in my arm, then proceeded to insert the implant into my left upper arm.  I was nervous when I laid down on the bed, however I actually felt nothing other than a slight nip when getting the anaesthetic jag.

The first 3 months I was pretty lucky, I didn't get the prolonged bleeding she said could happen, I didn't have any major hormonal mood changes etc, so far so good. Every month I would bleed around when my period would be due... sometimes that period would last one hour - yes an hour....sometimes one day... two or three at absolute most, so far this implant was a dream!

Month 4 I wasn't so lucky, I had a 9 day period which felt like a lifetime, but I accepted it as not being so bad considering some girls can bleed for months, however two weeks later I started bleeding again - this time for 16 days.

By this point we were into month 5, and again only two weeks later I started bleeding again.  I didn't realise how stressful prolonged bleeding can be, every time I was bleeding I also had full blown period symptoms, snappy, irritable, cramps, hormonal, emotional, break outs etc, so needless to say I was beyond miserable come month 6 and it started to really effect me badly.  

I decided to have my implant removed, so again I returned to the sexual health clinic by appointment and had it removed, the nurse was SO unsympathetic towards my reasons and she was extremely rude towards me, she snapped at me informing me how the side effects were explained to me before insertion of the Implanon implant, to which I replied "I understand this, however I never realised how much of a negative effect it could have on my mood and wellbeing".  She ignored this comment and asked what I plan to use as future contraception, I told her I would return to using the pill and she again snapped at how the pill is not as good a method as the implant and how it is not as successful in preventing pregnancy.  I was extremely angry come this point so I tried my best to ignore her snappy rude attitude and remarks, she even at one point told me my GP does not know what he is talking about as they are not clued up on contraception - again I said nothing, I just cut her off and told her I wanted it removed no matter what.  She told me to lie on the bed, and gave me an injection of anaesthetic, made a cut in my skin and pushed the implant out - it was over in less than 4 minutes which includes waiting on the anaesthetic setting in. Afterwords I stood up and she told me to see my GP for the pill and dismissed me instantly. I left feeling annoyed and I had no time to ask any questions.

The implant was not for me, it may work for many others but this is not for me in any way due to not being able to handle the excessive bleeding, if you don't think it's something you could handle steer clear.  I also felt I was constantly hungry whilst using the implanon implant.  I also believe this is the cause of the large 88m cyst which has developed on my ovary (it is listed in the side effects).  I regret ever having the implant and would never use it again, however due to recent news regarding my uterus I won't be using any method of contraception.